A Complete Guide to Ending a Friendship

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Losing a friend can sometimes be as hard as a failed relationship, but sometimes things just don’t fit anymore. If the friendship is too toxic, you must end it. Friendships change, and they end. If you must end the friendship, do so with kindness and humility.

Should you end it

End it when you’re just fighting.

Do you think the anger will disappear, or is it the end? Friends can fight and still be friends. You can’t always expect perfection from them. If you’re fighting more than having good times, maybe it’s time to call it quits. Who wants to be friends with someone they constantly fight with? Did you disagree just once or all the time? If the disagreements don’t go away, you might want to give up the friendship. Is the problem more important than friendship? It’s one thing when you vote differently, but when someone fundamentally disagrees with your views, it’s a deal breaker. Is there an injury or slight that either of you doesn’t want to apologize for? Are you so proud/upset that you can’t say you’re sorry and should move on?

End it when you’re growing apart and nobody wants to fix it.

Sometimes friendships don’t end in a fight, they just fizzle out. Haven’t you spoken to your boyfriend for a long time? Do you find excuses not to spend time with him? Can you save the friendship? Do you want people to change? That’s sad but true. Don’t fight it if there’s no reason to. If you’re old friends, you should try again. People go through tough times, and that’s no excuse to give up just because a few weeks haven’t gone so well. If you grow apart, it does not necessarily mean you will find each other again. Get some distance. Maybe that already fixes the problem.

Compare your life

without a little less, It’s childish and extreme when “best friends” “never see each other again.” Maybe it’s enough if you just spend less time together. Are you sad when you imagine life without them, or are you relieved? If you’re not sure what you want to do, then see your friend less. It’s easier to be less dramatic and mature than send your friend to the desert. Do you still want to put energy into the friendship? If the answer is no, then let go and draw the line. If you know that you no longer want the drama, boredom, or other negative feelings you associate with the person, end the friendship. Ignore mutual friends, activities, and other factors that aren’t important. End it when it’s no longer good for you.

The bottom line

Completely end toxic friendships overnight.

If your friend is a threat to you or your health, ignore social conventions and end it immediately. If your friend is being manipulative/harmful or you’re afraid they’ll turn violent if you end the friendship, cut the knot. You don’t have to talk to him. Don’t respond to calls or messages. Delete them on Facebook, and don’t go places where you see them. If you are in danger, notify someone (your boss, a teacher, or the police) immediately. You shouldn’t deal with this friendship alone anymore.

Don’t spend time together anymore.

Let the friendship fade naturally. Friends go to different schools, move to different cities, or pursue different activities and spend time with different people. It’s quick, doesn’t hurt anyone, and is usually consensual. Here’s how you can find your way out of trouble: Have conversations in a safe, quiet environment. Keep all the emotional, personal baggage to yourself. Lose contact. Don’t bother calling or texting anymore. Don’t answer a call or two. Do not exaggerate. If you’re no longer friends, you don’t need to be in constant contact. Decline invitations. Spend less time with your ex-boyfriend as the distance between you grows. He won’t call again once he understands.

End the friendship personally and directly.

Do this quickly if necessary. Do you want direct success? be direct Then the person doesn’t have to guess why you don’t talk to them anymore. Just talk to him for a moment. If you just don’t want to spend time with someone, that might be a little too extreme. If they’re toxic, you’re old friends, or the person is otherwise sabotaging your life, then you need to own your decision and be honest about it. Conversation and might reduce animosity between you.

Choose a quiet but public place for the conversation.

You can walk away after the conversation or if the conversation escalates (which hopefully it doesn’t). Cafes and parks are good choices.

State your concerns politely, assertively, and quickly.

Put it in a nutshell: “We shouldn’t be spending any more time together.” is blunt and effective.

Keep the conversation focused on you.

Don’t blame the other person and don’t talk bad about them. Instead of blaming the person for drinking so much, say, “I need time to focus on my studies and less partying.”

Let the other person speak.

He needs to understand your position. But it is also important to say how he feels about the situation. That shouldn’t change your decision, though. You thought about it for a long time. Don’t throw everything overboard in thirty seconds.

Go when you’ve said everything.

Maybe you want to apologize because you ended the friendship. If you haven’t done anything wrong, there’s no reason for it. Get it over with and go.

Set clear boundaries for the end of the friendship.

The person will probably try to get in touch with you once or twice, no matter how you end it. Tell him whether or not he’s allowed to keep in touch with you. Don’t stop until you know exactly what you want. If you’re spongy, you’ll soon fall back into old habits. If you want to keep in touch, clarify what kind of contact. You don’t have to deny the person’s existence just because you don’t want to spend any more time with them. If you never want to speak to him again, warn him of the consequences if he resists.

Live with the consequences

Get ready for the sadness that comes with a lost friendship.

Sometimes it hurts the most when you lose the worst people. You had good times too. It was cool, you had fun and it was funny when you were friends. It will feel like you’ve ripped a band-aid off a wound when you lose him. It hurts, it hurts, but it’s better this way. Maybe your friend isn’t okay with it either. One or both will cry, plead, or get angry. The emotions don’t eliminate the reasons you end it. you will feel guilty No matter how broken the relationship was, it’s normal to feel responsible for the death of a good cause. That goes away with time.

Keep your anger in check.

That’s no good for anyone. Your boyfriend’s anger will be enough for both of you. Hurt feelings quickly turn to anger. Anger causes you to do things you would rather not have done. If you find either of you angry, step back and get out of the situation for a moment. You will calm down when you are apart. If your ex-boyfriend becomes aggressive in response to the confrontation, be prepared for verbal or physical reactions. End it in public and bring a friend or write a letter if you’re concerned. You would also be angry if your friend hurt you. That is normal. Don’t let anger sway you from your decision. When the friendship is over, you can let your emotions run wild.

Prepare for passive aggression.

You probably can’t cut ties completely, especially if you see each other at work or school. Passive aggression is the weapon of offended friends, but it won’t hurt you unless you let it. Prepare for power games in the first few months. The best weapon is when you completely ignore it. If your ex-boyfriend is passive-aggressive, he will get back at you because you ended the friendship. It’s ultimately your fault for ending it, and you shouldn’t react. You have already ended the friendship. Don’t make it worse by sabotaging or hurting him after you’ve already ended it.

Accept it when friends don’t side with you.

This is nothing personal. It’s hard for people to stay friends with two people who don’t like each other anymore. People gravitate toward you or your boyfriend because otherwise, they’re in between chairs. But that’s also the most melodramatic thing that can happen. Most of the time, your circle of friends will change a bit and move on.

and don’t brood over the past.

When you meet new people, you show your ex-boyfriend that you can live without him. You feel better about the end of the friendship because you have amazing new people in your life. New ideas are good for you – as long as you’re not looking for someone who acts similar to the friend you just sent into the desert.

Conclusion

You have the right to keep your peace. If your boyfriend robs you of all the joy in life, it’s an unhealthy relationship. Don’t let friends and family blame you for staying in an unhealthy relationship. Think of your well-being. If you feel like you need to end a friendship, do it. Make sure it’s the right decision before you make it. Do what is best for you. If someone leaves you, let them. Your happiness doesn’t depend on them. That doesn’t mean they’re a bad person, but that their role in your story is over. Think about how the person will react so you can end the friendship as peacefully as possible. Tell your friend that you have a reason to end the friendship. Be polite and confident. The reason should be understandable and sensitive. End it firmly but gently. Say why you don’t want to be friends with him anymore, and don’t be afraid to express your feelings. If you must end it, then do it. Don’t end it if he has a month to live.

 

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